2020 in Review

Jan 19, 2021

Estimated Reading Time: 7 minutes (1452 words)

This is my first attempt to reflect upon a year of my life, writing it down and publishing it publicly. Hopefully, sometime in the future, this post will remind my future self how I lived through 2020, one of the toughest year of most people life.

Year 2020, has been great for me. Even though there is a pandemic going on almost half of a year, things are still good. I still have a job. I am still healthy. My family, and friends are still with me, and that’s all that matter.

There are a lot of things I have been through in 2020, which lead to a lot of learnings and takeaways. I gained more experience of being an adult and also realize many of my mistakes and weaknesses throughout the year

The Main Takeaway

The key takeaway of 2020 is:

Life is fragile.

Seeing how a pandemic impact the human population, just changes my perspective on life generally. While life can be fragile, humankind is still strong.

Knowing that, it’s important for us to take time and appreciate things we have. The fact that you are reading this, means you are luckier than a lot of people around the world.

Appreciate what you have, and don’t take it for granted.

Goals

In the beginning of 2020, I set out to:

In order to achieve my goals, here are some of the habits I’m building in 2020:

Be a consistent writer

This was my main gaols in 2020, and in order to achieve that, I try to write at least 3 times per week. But why was this the main goal over everything else? This is because:

I did quite well in 2020. I published one post per month continuously for 7 months (from February to August 2020). While is not the best, it’s something cherish my life a little bit.

On top of that, every week, I scheduled a time block to think and reflect. I started by scheduling a 10 minutes time block, to just sit down and write down the thoughts I have in mind.

Sometimes I write about the problems I’m facing, and how would I advise myself if I am my friend. It’s helpful to have this kind of conversation with ourselves as it helps us to see things from different perspective. I also find that the act of writing my frustration/issues/feelings down helps to calm myself.

Later on, this session become a much more like a planning/thinking session, where I think about the goals and tiny habits I want to focus on each week. There are more on these I can write on, but that’s all for the reflection for now (let’s leave that for another post).

Be better and efficient in learning

To me, part of life is continuous learning. Hence, being better and efficient at learning is another goal I set out to achieve in 2020.

Sometime ago, I learn about spaced repetition from WaniKani, and read “Make It Stick”, a book that talk about the science of learning. Hence, I try to incorporate these techniques into my learning.

The result? I failed. I’m still learning my old way. I still don’t retain much after reading a book.

However, I have started working on some small steps such as:

I’m still experimenting with different learning methods, hopefully, I’ll do better in 2021.

Regardless, I still learn tons of things and gain a lot of new knowledge in 2020, which might be a post for another day.

Exercise consistently

Health is an important aspect in life. To stay healthy, I try to workout consistently.

I did okay in 2020. I completed at least 216 workouts in 2020. However, the number doesn’t tell much without context on the intensity or duration of the workout.

The definition of my workout is to complete one small reps of activities such as:

This is the small step I took in 2020 to be healthier. I tried to workout for a longer duration and also practiced some yoga movement in 2020. However, I didn’t persists, and eventually I fallback to the small step.

In 2021, I will up my game a bit and set out to workout at least 2 hours per week. Hopefully, by 2022, my stomach is not all in one anymore.

Be good at dating and loving someone

This is the worst part of me. And, I did the worst on this in 2020. No excuse, I’m just bad at putting effort in a relationship.

To me, being together with someone, is about the everyday. To her, that’s like a routine, and not an effort. I understand that. But, I’m still not improving much in this aspect of my life.

On my partner birthday in 2020, even though she have hint me what to buy as a gift, I didn’t really put much effort to get the gift earlier, instead I brought her to buy the gift on her birthday.

That’s just one example. Imagine you experience this 10x more in a year of your life. There is a lot more bad sides I have as a partner. Not so good.

On a bright side, I did improve a little bit for the past months. A little bit, not much. I think moving forward, is about:

I’m still far from perfect. In 2021, I’ll put in a lot more effort on being better at this.

Be a better son

This is a good example of a bad goal setting. What does being a better son mean? Having said that, I think I’m not explicitly doing anything to be a better son.

I failed at this goal too. What’s important next is to think about:

Instead of just writing this as a goal to achieve, I should start defining small steps I can take. Maybe I can start with calling my parents weekly. If that’s too hard, how about calling them monthly?

I guess we are all know what the next step looks like, it’s just a matter of taking that one small step. And throughout 2020, I have also realized that:

Things are always scary before you take the first step. But once you take the first step, you’ll realized that it’s really not that scary.

So, if things seem to be hard for you, maybe try to just thinking about taking that one small step, and ignore everything else.

Summary

Overall, I did okay in 2020. I have grow significantly in my career. Doing okay in my personal life. Learn tons of things from my mistakes, and still continue to learn and improve every single day.

And if you are curious about how’s my 2021 so far:

It’s tough, but I’ll be doing fine, and so do you.

Cheers, and have a nice day.